• Self-Discovery


A Woman in harmony with her spirit is like a river flowing.
She goes where she will without pretense and arrives at her destination
prepared to be herself and only herself. 
      ~Maya Angelou            

 

Today is the first day of A Woman’s Path blog!  I’m so excited to tell you about my new adventure!

A Woman’s Path is for every woman who ever longed to understand herself and her place in this world.

A woman’s Path is about finding peace with her past, embracing change, while, opening her heart and mind to new possibilities!  

To discover for herself; who she is, where she’s been, and what she wants in her future!

Personally, I’ve spent years, (decades really) asking myself these questions, wanting to understand when, where, and why I became lost in my life.  How I managed to take care of everyone else and their needs, but forgot that I had needs of my own. Instead of looking within, I felt angry at others and rebelled against myself.

 

The time had come for real change

to happen in my life!

 

I wanted to start asking myself the hard questions and start facing some harsh truths. It was also equally important for me to remember the times I had been strong, capable, and confident.

In the answers, I discovered me:  the beautiful me and the not-so-beautiful me.  I began to view myself as the heroine in my life. 

The book, The Alchemist, by Paulo Coehlo, (see Books, under Fiction) weaves a tale about the life of a boy named Santiago. He travels the world to discover that his path leads him back home to himself, where his real treasure lies.  He becomes the hero of his own journey and the journey is the story.  It is the story of his life.

We can all relate. Each one of us is on a journey. The path is never straight, but it is our individual story.  And, when we examine our lives closely, we realize that we are heroes and heroines, free to choose which path we take.

My life’s path has had many turns, detours, switchbacks, and even some dead ends!  Through it all, I always managed to keep going. It is said, “What doesn’t kill makes you stronger!”  Well…I’m not dead yet! 

Although, our choices may take us on different paths, as women, we share the instincts to nurture, to love deeply, and to feel compassion for others.  These are gifts that we freely give to the people that mean the most to us in our lives.

 

But often, we do not give to ourselves the nurturing, the love, or the self-compassion we generously give to others. 

 

We often don’t take the time to see the role we play in our own lives. We are often too busy to take the time to care for ourselves.  And, if we do schedule the time we need, our minds seem to be filled with guilt for being selfish!

How can we understand ourselves, on our journey, when we don't make ourselves a priority? How can we be the heroines of our own story, when we don’t see ourselves in the role?  

I love the movie, The Holiday. I watch it often, (not just during the holidays).  And there is one line in the movie that I always look forward to.  It’s when Iris, (played by Kate Winslet) is out to dinner with Arthur (played by the late, Eli Wallach). Iris, through tears, tells Arthur about a guy who got engaged and forgot to tell her. Arthur proceeds to tell Iris that she is acting more like the best friend in a movie than the leading lady. 

Iris replies, “You’re right! You’re supposed to be the leading lady in your own life, for god sakes!!”

 

Are you behaving like Iris, setting aside you own feelings and needs for someone else?  Not being seen, heard or respected by some “Smuck?”

Is there someone in your life that constantly crosses the line, yet you allow it to continue?  Maybe it’s not anyone or anything in particular, you just haven’t decided to make yourself and your feelings important.

Do you feel seen, heard, and respected?

 

Are you the leading lady of your own life? 

Do you see yourself as the heroine of your own journey?

These are the kinds of questions you need to ask yourself, if you are feeling unhappy in your life.

If you feel like the leading lady in your life, that is awesome!  But, if you feel that you aren't the heroine of your own journey, then its time to ask yourself why?  

And remember, no one’s path is straight, but everyone’s path has a story to tell.  Let's begin this journey of self-discovery!

I’m so excited: A Woman’s Path is finally here! 

I look forward to spending time with you!

 

“The more in harmony with yourself you are, the more joyful you are and the more faithful you are. Faith is not to disconnect you from reality - it connects you to reality.”                  
~Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist



 

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