"but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him, who is the head, that is, Jesus."
I must admit that I struggle with Ephesians 4:15. More often than not, I've witnessed the misuse of the phrase, leaving hurt, anger, and confusion in its wake.
I've experienced a well-meaning chat where God's word got lost in the delivery. I have also attempted to deliver a message of truth, resulting in regret and misunderstanding.
Throughout the bible, God gives us many examples of His great love for us. He also commands us to love one another, as He has loved us. Jesus is called the way, the truth, and the life.
So why is it so difficult to tell someone the truth in a Christlike way? Especially when we believe that we are following His will?
When I think about my attempts to speak truthfully, I see that my view of the situation may differ from God's. Before I know it, my ego is talking and drowning out God.
I'm learning that when speaking God's truth, I must first pray, wait and listen.
- Pray for insight into my concerns.
- Wait patiently for God's response.
- Be sure I am listening to God and acting on His truth and not my own.
I need to also remember Ephesians 4:2&3:
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.
In speaking to the church of Ephesus, Paul knew that to strengthen one another, God's people must put on the character of Christ. Only then will the message be delivered and received with the heart of Jesus.
Thank you, Lord, for loving us enough to give us instructions for speaking the truth to one another. Help us to follow the way of Jesus, so our words are humble, gentle, and delived with love. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.